Why Did the Entrepreneur Cross the Road? To Find Balance and Purpose!
Kc Rossi, PCC 00:00:02 Are you ready to scale your business in a way that's aligned with your soul and profitable? I'm Kc Rossi, a Business and Leadership Coach. I've been a full-time entrepreneur for 30 years and love business. I help conscious leaders increase their impact and optimize their lives. Join me each week for tips and deep conversations on cultivating confidence, increasing your visibility, elevating your vibration, and leading with purpose without burning out. Let's go!
My goodness. It's been several weeks since I last recorded an episode. It's amazing how time slips by. I know with the shows that I'm enjoying. I'm bummed when they take a couple weeks off because I come to rely on their message and spark of hope and inspiration. So, thank you for your presence and your patience.
I've been doing a lot more in-person gigs, everything from workshops on people-pleasing and perfectionism to heart coherence and emotional intelligence.
This week, I was the keynote speaker at the Elevation Exchange Supper Club. What an awesome event! My focus was all about blending purpose, performance, and prosperity.
Kc Rossi, PCC 00:01:20 Like many times, purpose can be overwhelming, and people get snagged by thinking they have to come up with this grand altruistic goal to be worthy of even naming their purpose. Other times, it's just clear and a blessing that one can lean into.
I shared the story of an artist that I recently met. Over the last weekend, I went to the Alchemy Exchange, a festival in a nearby town. It's so awesome to meet fellow entrepreneurs and see their creative expressions. One booth stood out to me, not because it was the flashiest or had the most people gathered around, but because I could feel a deep sense of purpose and mission.
The artist was Eli Thomas, a member of the Onondaga Nation Wolf clan. He immediately started going into storytelling. Sharing the layers of history and traditions of his people. What a prolific wellspring! I was trying to find the words to describe him. Was he a channeler, a mystic? The art was surely from something that looked like it was from a dream state, cobalt blue mountains with wolves embedded in them.
Kc Rossi, PCC 00:02:30 The eyes were the birds that sat on the trees in front of them. In one of the trees, there was a woman in the trunk whose seeds scattered various creatures, from a turtle to a red-tailed hawk, each symbolizing the Native American clans. When I looked around his booth, I saw a sign that said Wisdom Keeper of the Haudenosaunee. And it all made sense. This is an example of purpose. His message was pouring out of him. The art was a physical representation, but his talking story was the medicine.
How about you?
If you would like to gain clarity, I invite you to request access to my Know Thyself and Lead mini-training. It's absolutely free, and there's a whole section including a video and worksheets that will help you define and refine your purpose. I'll drop a link in the show notes for you.
The next area I shared about was on performance. Now, if you're really honest with yourself, how do you define your work performance? Such an interesting question, right? I don't even know if we pause long enough to ask ourselves, because sometimes we just get into our inbox.
Kc Rossi, PCC 00:03:47 We let other people's demands dictate how we're going to run our day. I don't know if you reflect. I hope that you do. I think that you do if you're listening to this. But it's really easy to just like roll down the river and do what we've always done because that's how we do it. That's actually one of the definitions of routine. It becomes unconscious because we just do the same thing day in and day out.
For me, I defined performance by hustling and grinding. If you have been here for a while, you know that that contributed to adrenal fatigue, burnout, and a host of other immune system issues. Wearing burnout as a badge did not serve me. It was a mind lie that I was a good girl and that honest work was hard work. This took years to unpack and unwind, and even now, I have to be really mindful of patterns of “all the overs,” despite having spent a long time on this particular issue. There are “over” that creep up, overdoing, overcommitting, overworking, overeating, overgiving… Patterns of the Overs. Our patterns are usually deeply ingrained.
Kc Rossi, PCC 00:05:13 We've made meanings around things like if I'm still, I'm lazy. Or on the flip side, if I'm productive, I'm valuable. This week, I had a coaching session with a mission-driven director. She has spent a lifetime working hard, pushing, holding everything together at work and at home. She's a mom of three kids, one of which is facing some significant health challenges. Her pattern is deep, which is to hold it all, mitigate, shield, and protect those that she loves, including her team at work. She has become so entrenched in being in the rescuer mode. If you're familiar with the Kartman drama triangle. If not, I'll put a resource in the show notes as well.
Basically, the rescuer role. Her orientation is to save the less fortunate, the younger victim mentality, and basically anyone and everyone who looks like they need fixing, or would be uncomfortable if they were served up a plate of accountability. It's painful to watch and challenging to coach because it's deeply rooted.
I told her the first step is awareness.
Kc Rossi, PCC 00:06:35 The second step is willingness to change. And from there, it's an intentional practice, day by day.
The beautiful ray of hope is that our brains can be molded, changed, and shifted to serve you. We can, with practice, patience, and a ton of self-grace. Highlight. Underscore. Self-grace. Form new neural pathways, ones that will allow us to stay in our own lane. Create and maintain boundaries and bring insight to the WHY behind putting ourselves last.
I like to say, ‘Don't settle for the crumbs. You are worth the whole damn cake!’
The last segment I touched on was prosperity. You know that I'm a lover of all things holistic, that I prefer to look through the lens of the sum right, the synergy that points to the sum, which is greater than the parts I shared, what life is like living through a single lens view. For example, solely being focused on your metrics in business. But then, how do the other areas of your life look and feel? I know for me, when I was grinding in my seven figure business, I felt like crap.
Kc Rossi, PCC 00:07:55 In my current business, I am way more balanced. The areas of my life like health, relationships, joy, and spirituality they are tuned and dialed in.
Doctor Tara Swart, a top brain expert, shares an exercise in her book The Source, which, if you haven't picked it up, I highly recommend it. And she has an exercise in there that can help you identify areas where you may be over- or underdeveloped. So based on information from the source, the categories of whole brain thinking, which, to me, if we're thinking it, we're living it. So I look at it not only as whole brain thinking, but also living in balance.
So she talks about the physical aspects related to your body and physical well-being, including exercise and physical sensations. The emotional so concerning your feelings, emotional awareness, and emotional intelligence, one of my favorites. The intuitive, which focuses on your gut feelings, instinct, and trusting your intuition. Logical, which involves your rational thought processes, reasoning, and problem solving. And creativity pertaining to your ability to generate new ideas and think outside of the box.
Kc Rossi, PCC 00:09:18 It's very similar to my holistic wealth model. I look at the prosperity pie in six sections. They are physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, connective, which are those interpersonal relationships and collective. What is your positive ripple effect? How are you contributing to legacy leadership? What's your giveback? That's what I mean by collective.
One of the attendees at that entrepreneur dinner, a local chiropractor, shared that hearing about the wholistic prosperity pie was valuable for her. She was feeling like a failure by not being fully booked. When in essence, she had time to be in nature, walk her dog, and have slow, easy mornings when she didn't have to go into the office until 11 a.m. to see her first client of the day. It helped her reframe what sustainable success truly means.
I love it when that happens. I love to question the norm, to bust paradigms, to crack limiting beliefs, and to give space and reflection – to be the architect of your life, your business, and in essence, your dreams.
Kc Rossi, PCC 00:10:37 So, my friend, that's what I've been up to lately. I will be more consistent for you because, quite frankly, this podcast is as much for me as it is for you. It's an anchor point. It helps me see where I'm going and also articulate where I've been. So thank you for listening, for being you, for dedicating time to your transformation. I really appreciate it. And until next week… breathe joy.!
